RIGHT GIVING

I'm sure someone is asking if there is anything like 'right giving', like should there ever be a situation where you find your self in a position to give and you don't give?

Well, I think there are such situations and I will get to that shortly.

Growing up, I learnt to be a 'cheerful giver'. This I learnt from my mum who could give her last kobo to even a stranger. So I can say that the i learnt the act of giving from her. 

But proceeding into university, precisely my second year, everything changed. 
I remember even before I entered uni, my brother told me that a time would come when I would not like giving and I laughed and said it couldn't be possible, but alas, it came to pass. 

The university is a place where u get to meet a lot of different people with different upbringings. And yes I met  different people with different approaches to life. 

One thing I had also learnt from my parents was to be independent and never depend on anybody.  
Because of that training, it was really difficult for me to ask my mates for anything, but unfortunately not everyone shared that opinion. I got to meet people who would ask you for the littlest of things like sugar, milk and even your bathing soap. 😪. In the beginning, I found it so hilarious 😁😁😁and I never refused, but subsequently, I began to say no, not because I didn’t have but because I actually needed those things. But as funny as human beings can be, they called me all sorts like selfish, stingy etc forgetting the days I used to give freely, and to say that I did not begin to feel bad will be telling a lie. 

So one day I stumbled on a parable in the Bible and that is the parable of the ten virgins. It wasn’t like I didn’t know the parable before but reading it again gave me a different understanding.

So I will like to compare it to this situation.

These young girls were equals, they had the same goal ( to meet the bridegroom) they were even virgins meaning that they were infact morally upright but did they take the same actions? NO.

Whilst 5 of the virgins were wise as to take more oil for their lamps, the remaining 5 felt that there was really no need. 

At the time when the oil was needed the five foolish virgins decided to ask from the other five virgins knowing that their lamp was almost going out. 
One would expect that the other five virgins would be so generous and give them out of theirs but the wise ones told them NO. And they had to go and get theirs. But unfortunately they returned late.

Now this is what it had to do with my situation back then in school.
 We were all students in school. We all didn’t have a source of income, we all had to make do with what we were getting from probably our parents or relatives. We were more or less equals. 

I decided to use mine for provisions, another person would probably decide to use hers for makeup or clothes, good, to each his/her own. 

Now pay attention. 

Notice how the 5 virgins were called WISE and not stingy, or wicked or probably selfish right? 
Now let’s say one had given out of hers it would have not been enough for even both of them and she definitely won’t have been part of the ‘wise virgins’. ( I think she would have even been called MOST FOOLISH VIRGIN lol). 

Therefore I’ve come to the conclusion that yes we should give, we’ve heard it severally that givers never lack but also I've decided to be a wise giver.

Hence I’ve decided to change the topic of this write up to WISE GIVING. (Just here tho 😬😬)

Other lessons that should be learned includes: 

1. Be prepared properly for everything. 
2. Don't ever take anything for granted. 
3. Be wise in ALL THINGS. 

I still really love giving tho.