2018 LESSONS 1

So I was just reminiscing about the last year about a month ago and one thing I’d learnt so far was not to judge people.

Alas I was to even learn more things concerning that same topic and I’ll just like to share. 

So since this year began, I’ve being watching this show called your view and it’s quite an interesting showing. 

On Wednesday 5th December, the main host of the show made a statement on how she would not allow her husband bath her daughter. Honestly I thought she should not have made the statement cos it's a really personal statement and I knew it would cause a whole lot of backlash but I didn’t think it will be overly seriously. Why? I had watched the show for close to a year and I had heard her a couple of times talk about her husband and it had only been loving words and words of praise, but by the end of the day, the post had gone viral and she received more backlash than I ever thought. I was really pained about it. To me it was not fair. But it got me thinking, that, probably I would have agreed with what people were saying if i didn’t know her (I guess I can say I know her) and it made me understand more about the concept of not judging people atall. We don’t know everything, we think we do but we really don’t. So let’s learn to keep quite. 

The comments were so heart wrenching and heart breaking. People now felt that they were in a position to tell her husband what to do. A lot of people told her husband to divorce her, to take her to a psychiatric hospital.... mehn, it was bad. So bad that she had to come on her show 2 days later to publicly apologize and she ended up shedding tears. I was really hurt.  More hurt particularly because she was even pregnant. I was so concerned about her mental, psychology health. You can say the power of social media right?? Shey they should have first asked if her husband has ever wanted to bathe the kids and she refused. I just felt her husband was not really domesticated (which she had mentioned previously and she was obviously okay with it) and he really did not care about bathing children. SIMPLE!!! But noooo our 'woke' brethren wanted their voices to be heard. Bunch of idiots. (I'm sure it it was posted on Facebook, the reaction would be different cos Facebook peeps are largely older folks).

Coincidentally another thing happened to buttress my point. I stumbled on a tweet about how people who like to form rich and all most times have struggling family members and how they prefer to help other people rather than their family members. Someone further ‘quoted’ the tweet and indirectly called (subbed) someone out who was helping people yet his mum was hawking pap in the market. Now see, we can’t deny that the original tweet makes a whole lot of sense like seriously but what happened was that a lot of people came out to defend the person that was subbed and they made quite a lot of sense which made me further realize that these people actually know this boy and probably all efforts that have been made towards his family. Therefore it makes no sense for someone who doesn’t know this boy from Adam to come and say bad things concerning him. But you see, that’s what we do, we hear things, we see things and we just jump on them and start talking. It’s really sad and it’s only when you put yourself in the shoes of people that you’ll know how it feels. 

Remember we all make mistakes, we err... a passage in the Bible says Remove the

Log in your eyes before you remove the speck in someone else’s eyes. (paraphrased). It’s that simple. 

Let’s try and do better. 

Times like this, my heart simply goes out to all the Toke Makinwas, Tiwa Savage etc that have been really judged in the past by only what we see.